Meet Abhishek Dhurve, Udaan 2.0 fellow from Khudia village, who comes from a challenging background. His family comprises his mother, sister, and father. His mother sustains the family through goat rearing, while Abhishek pursues education and do some jobs when needed. Despite struggles, he completed schooling at Navodaya Vidyalaya and now he is doing graduation in English honours at a government college.
In our society While it is often discussed how patriarchy suppresses girls—limiting their choices and opportunities—it also deeply affects boys, placing unrealistic expectations on them. Boys are seen as providers, burdened with responsibilities from a young age, and denied the space to express their emotions or vulnerabilities.
Under Udaan Program abhishek is working on a idea his project idea, “Mard Ko Bhi Dard Hota Hai,” stems from his experiences in a society where masculinity is equated with strength, stoicism, and sacrifice. There is a specific (perspective) towards boys: they are not expected to cry, express pain, or contribute to household chores. If a boy dares to deviate from these norms—by showing emotions, seeking help, or doing something considered “unmanly”—society questions his masculinity, saying “Tum mard nahi ho.” Such remarks not only ridicule boys but also isolate them, forcing them to suppress their true selves to fit societal expectations.
After attending Udaan sessions, Abhishek started working within his community to raise awareness among boys about how patriarchy and rigid masculinity norms affect their day-to-day lives. Through his project, he teaches them that expressing emotions, crying, or helping with household chores does not make them any less of a man. Instead, breaking these norms allows them to live happier, freer lives.
Abhishek’s work challenges traditional ideas of masculinity and encourages boys to redefine their roles in society. His vision is to create a space where boys feel empowered to express themselves without shame, support each other, and embrace their individuality. By challenging these norms, Abhishek is helping build a more empathetic and inclusive community for everyone.
